Having doubts in a relationship is something that happens; that’s clear. But, many times, those who have them wonder if it is normal to have these doubts. What do you think? Is it normal to have doubts when you’re in a relationship?
But, and here’s the important part, it’s normal to a certain extent. Normally, there are times when you’re better and other times hen you’re worse with your partner. It’s also normal that sometimes you focus more on what you like about your partner and other times on what you don’t. It’s also normal that you argue more than usual for a while.
Fantasizing about another person at some point is also normal.
Of course, some fleeting and occasional doubts are normal! None of this, in and of itself, is worrying. When does it start to become worrying to have doubts? When all those doubts persist over time, and you’ve been like that for more than two or three months?.
When you can no longer say that, despite your doubts, you feel secure in your partner and the relationship you have with him (or her).
When the discomfort of your situation begins to rob you of your desire, your sleep, and your joy. When you start wondering if that relationship can be fixed or if you’ll end up breaking up.
When the relationship brings you more anxiety, sadness, or disappointment than peace, support, and affection.
When you stop being a partner’s companion and start analyzing everything they do, wanting to control everything, and overthinking the relationship.
When fear and the feeling of failure begin to follow you everywhere. And when you’re so bad, you start to think about the possibility that it could end. So, YES, doubts are a clear sign that we need to intervene URGENTLY.
Because most separations stem from doubts that were not given due attention at the time.
Doubts are not bad
What I want to tell you with this is that doubts are NOT bad. The only bad thing is NOT doing anything when those doubts appear.
Because when you’re in doubt, and one day you think yes and the next you think no, your energy is wasted there, in that ambivalence.
It’s as if you started walking and one day you walked north and the next you walked south. Would you get anywhere? No. You would walk butt not move forward.
Because your energies would be diluted in two opposite paths, instead of all being in the same place.
Only when you know whether to go north or south, and how, do you truly move forward, because all your energies are on the same side.
And that’s what my YES or NO course is for: so you can caclear what the problem is in your relationship, clear up any doubts, and focus all your energy on one side of the path (the one you decide after completing the course).
So that if you commit to that relationship, you’ll be well aware of what’s there, so you can lean into it, and what’s missing, so you can work to recover it.
With all your strength and desire rowing in the same direction.
YES or NO is a very practical course in which you will understand, day by day, what is not working in your relationship.
But knowing where to look so that you can overcome confusion and doubt.
I was completely blind, and if you have a problem you can’t see, it’s impossible to find a solution. Thanks to your course, I now know what to do, ” says Estefanía, one of the women who has already taken the course.
That is, with YES or N, u will delve deeper into your relationship and its strengths and weaknesses in a way you have never done before.
So that, at the end of the course, you have clear answers that will get you out of that maze and lead you to a solution.
Because no one likes spending money to stay the same. No one likes to have time pass and their relationship deteriorate. That’s why I created SI o NO .
Are you still in the mood?
Look, one essential thing to be able to resolve a relationship crisis is that you are motivated to resolve it and that you truly want to understand what’s happening in your relationship and find a solution.
But, of course, motivation and desire diminish as time goes by, nothing changes, and you remain unhappy in the relationship.
It’s the same as the first time your car breaks down, you take it to the shop, and you’re motivated to fix it. But when it’s already broken down five times, your motivation decreases, and so does your confidence that the car can be fixed. Well, the same thing happens with a relationship.
So the sooner you do something effective and practical, the better.
First, because the desire for it to work is greater at the beginning of a crisis, when you’ve been hesitating for less time. But if you don’t do anything, g then you gradually lose hope, desire, and aspiration.
Secondly, our energy and vitality are also greater at the beginning, but as time passes, they are worn down by conflicts and unbridgeable distances (and, believe me, you need that energy to put it into the relationship).
Thirdly, at first, you have more faith in the possibilities of the relationship, but the more time passes, the less you believe there is a solution.
And fourthly (and this is my top choice), because at first the bond isn’t that broken yet, but the more emotional distance there is between you, the more things will separate you and the fewer things will unite you.
The worst thing that can happen to you
After accompanying many women who weren’t happy in their relationships, I think the worst thing that can happen to you is that you get used to being unhappy.
Because when there’s resentment, whether toward yourself or your partner, there’s still a longing to be okay.
Because when there’s fear that it won’t work, even though that fear makes you lose clarity and the ability to find solutions, there’s still the possibility of getting back to normal.
