Who are you,and who do you want to become? Did you know that these two little questions are the key to all your problems and can change your life?
Most of the time, we let ourselves be defined by others (our parents, our teachers, our colleagues, etc.). We heard multiple descriptions about ourselves and received labels that we took as truths. They became ingrained in,, us and we made them our reality!
Is this really about us? Does this definition of ourselves help us flourish? Very often, the answer is no. On the contrary, we feel trapped, constrained by this image of ourselves, and we suffer from it. No wonder we feel cramped since it’s not about us but about the idea that others have of us. We’re evolving in a costume that isn’t ours and that doesn’t fit us.
If I am not that person, then who am I?
Let’s go back to the beginning. There are some truths we cannot question, such as “I am human and mortal.” So far, everyone agrees, but what comes next gets a little more complicated.
What is my true nature? Here, we enter a question that can be approached from different points of view: scientific, philosophical, or spiritual. Each person will approach it from the angle that seems most essential to them according to thein worldview. Our answer already becomes more personal, but it does not define us in particular; it remains general.
So, how do I define who I am?
Can we define ourselves by our body, where we live, our job, our salary, our relationship, our children, our clothes, our house, etc.? In that case, we would be what we own.
Can we then base ourselves on what we do? Are we good people only if we have done good deeds in our lives? Do we become a bad person if we have behaved badly in our past? Are we not allowed to make mistakes?
The real question is about Bein, not about doing or having, and that’s what makes it so complex! To become who I am, I must first be. Yes, you read that right!
A question of priority
Rest assured, it’s not a matter of choosing. We certainly need to do and have things in our society, but that doesn’t define who we are. The subtlety lies in our ability to balance things. It’s all a question of priorities.
Most of us operate by thinking, “When I have this or that, I can finally be a fulfilled, happy, and fulfilled woman.” And we do what it takes to get it. We invest a lot of time and energy. That’s what you’re doing, right? So, why are you still not happy?
I suggest we look at the problem the other way around. “If I know who I am, I do what is in harmony with myself and thus obtain everything I need. My happiness is then found within me.” Phew! That immediately seems more accessible, doesn’t it?
When we are aligned with our true selves, we instinctively know what we need to do , we feel whether we are making the right choice or not. Many doubts disappear and it becomes easier to make decisions and move forward.
This doesn’t mean we won’t make mistakes aga, because we can’t change all our behaviors at once. It will take time. However, we will become much more lucid and aware of what we are doing. We will then be able to adjust what is necessary and thus evolve on a path that becomes increasingly clear to us.
The answer is inside
To know who you are, you must look within. That’s a question only you can answer.
Ask yourself the right questions and listen to yourself. Who are you? What does your intuition tell you? What do you feel? You know the ansanswer
This can be difficult and can take a long time if you are not used to it.
Facing oneself
In trying to discover who we are, we encounter parts of ourselves that we dislike, that we consider flaws, that we judge as negative. We are faced with our weaknesses, our difficulties, our anxieties, our failures, our fears.
The goal of this exercise isn’t to feel guilty about the parts of ourselves we don’t like. Our shadow is a part of us; we shouldn’t deny it. Facing our fears and looking our shadows straight in the eye allows us to shed light on them and make a difference.
Exercise
I invite you then to ask yourself the following question: Who do I want to become?
Project yourself 5 years into the future and imagine yourself. It’s you, but better. You’ve become the best version of yourself. Take some time to visualize yourself. How do you feel? What do you experience?
Self-knowledge is our greatest power. The more you know yourself, the more you can transform your life into the way you want it Thi..s is how you can become who you want to be, which is none other than yourself.
